Grace in your Homeschool Day

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What does grace in your homeschool day look like?
Do you give yourself, your children, and your day grace?

By now you have read this line many times “Homeschool is not for the weak nor for the faint of heart.” The reason why this is said so often is because it’s true. Being a stay at home mom isn’t always an easy job. Period!

But for many of us this is the job we choose.

It’s such a wonderful feeling when your day is going so good and everything seems to be running like a well oiled machine. But, what about those days when every nerve in your body is being tested? How do we handle those days?

Finding Grace in your Homeschool Day

I just recently started a new bible study and was diligently studying The Word on this particular day and was feeling so renewed and energized by this bible study. Feeling like I was equipped to take on what the enemy had to throw my direction. Boy, was I going to learn a lesson!

Even though I was feeling so good about how I was going to handle his next fiery arrow, I allowed anger to slip right in on our homeschool day.

Yep, it was one of those days!

You know the day.

The day where it seems like your children or even one child is meeting you with resistance at every turn. Ok, maybe it also had to do with the fact that on this particular day I had very little patience. {Yeah, I think that is going to play a large role in this. Ooops!}

It happened!

I lost my temper and started to get loud in our homeschool room. Feeling like our kids were just being totally ridiculous and disrespectful. Immediately I started to feel guilt and it was like someone was slowly turning on the dimmer switch to the light in the room and things started to get brighter and brighter and clearer and clearer. The problem was that the enemy knew that I was on a spiritual high from my Bible study and I was allowing him to test me. My first mistake!

You see, the kids were not doing anything more than………well……being kids. That’s what they are. They aren’t adults so why do we sometimes expect them to act like one. They have “those days,” too.

After I finished with my ridiculous rant about how I can’t teach them if they won’t be teachable….blah…blah….blah, I stopped and announced that I was going to take a shower and I needed a few minutes to myself! The End!

If I truly want some alone time I snag a shower. My kids are old enough now that they don’t come in and bother me while I’m in the shower unless it’s an emergency. Thank God!

I needed some time to chill with Jesus and think about what I had just done and said to my kids and reflect on the negative actions I was just teaching them. Yes! I needed a mommy time-out.

Giving yourself grace in your homeschool is such a needed practice. If we don’t exercise that once in a while it can result to something terrible. There’s yelling, poor actions, poor reactions, mommy guilt, and so on.

As I was reflecting and chill’n with Jesus (in prayer) I decided that when I finally got my act together and removed myself from the mommy time-out I had put myself in, I was going to calmly sit on the couch with these kids (that I thought 20 minutes ago were out to ruin my day) and read books together. Yep, that’s it! I had time to calm down and thought “maybe our day just needs a different direction at this moment.” A new pace, so to speak.

I didn’t even warn tell them that this was my plan when I stepped out of my room. I surprised them by just simply collecting some books and calling them all to the couch.

And this is what we did to finish out our school day. I never even looked at the lesson plans to see what was done or what else needed to be done. At that moment I really didn’t care. I wanted to spend time with those little creatures of God that had just made me put myself in a time-out. (we all know that it wasn’t really them, right!? it just sounds good)

And that’s what we did. We read….and read…and read! After we read and snuggled for a bit I set them free. Free to go play for the rest of the afternoon why I gathered up our day and revamped tomorrows lesson plans.

Giving yourself Grace in your Homeschool Day.

You see, that’s how I showed our homeschool grace that day. By walking away, taking a breath and switching gears.

Clearly homeschool is tough. It’s usually the same old, same old, day after day. There is so much more to this homeschool thing than meets the eye. There are days when we just aren’t feeling it. Guess what? Our kids have those days, too. What makes these time worse is we see the dirty dishes in the sink, the laundry that needs to be done, we know that meals have to be made, the floors have to be cleaned, the furniture needs to be dusted, the bathrooms…..if you have boys… know what that can be like. On top of our schooling responsibilities, we have all these other things staring back at us. If we were to work away from the home those things would still be there and need to be done. But, they wouldn’t be staring at you all day – taunting you the way they do. Add up all that taunting and you are bound to lose it. Add kids to that mix and watch out.

When you feel your homeschool day taking a turn and there’s upset in the air, don’t forget to have grace in your homeschool.

Here’s a few things you can do for those days when you feel like your day is turning into a disaster and everyone is on the verge of insanity.

 Action Steps to having Grace in your Homeschool:

  • Take a breath and take a mommy time-out. Prayer helps, of course!
  • Grab some books to read and snuggle on the couch for awhile.
  • Go outside. Let them run and play or play an outdoor family game. Freeze tag anyone?
  • Go for a walk.
  • Go to a local park.
  • Break out the coloring books and have a moment of family coloring time.
  • Watch a documentary on Netflix.
  • Raid your recycling bin and create a robot.
  • Break out the craft supplies and have a “free art” session. Get your craft on!
  • Stop and write a short letter to each other expressing what you love about them.
  • Have a discussion. Discuss what everyone would like to learn about that hasn’t been covered yet or what topic they have studied but would like to go into further details and learn more about.
  • More discussion. Discuss what everyone’s idea of the perfect homeschool day looks and feels like. (This might provoke some thoughts and ideas)
  • Stop and rewind your day. Everyone gets a half hour of alone quiet time and then meets back together for a do over.

There are so many ways you can have Grace in your Homeschool. Don’t be hard on yourself. Allow for days that can just seem unbearable to manage. The best part about this homeschool journey we are on is that we can start fresh tomorrow. EVERYONE has those days of insanity. Even those who have laid down the best plans and seem to have it all together – they have those days, too. It’s all in how we handle those days and how we teach our kids to handle those days.

We also have to be careful not to just throw in the towel every time there is resistance in our day. We have to be mindful and choose which days to have Grace in our Homeschool. If we just give up at every little turn, it will hurt our homeschool journey and teach our children to give up when faced with tough times. That isn’t a good message or lesson either.

Evaluate your day and give yourself grace when most needed. Some days we just need to hit the pause button, take a breather and start back up again.

You’ve got this!

We would love to hear how you handle grace in your homeschool.
Feel free to give us your ideas in the comments below.


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  1. Great ideas! I always hear “give yourself grace”, and I would think if I did that then we would never get anything done! I assumed grace was walking away for the day, I really appreciate that you defined grace in workable terms 🙂 I can give myself that kind of grace, walking away for a few minutes and changing gears would definitely work for us. Thank You. I am glad that Melanie gave you a shout out on Periscope or I never would have had found you!

  2. Thank you so much for your kind words, Ashley! I feel blessed that you received an encouraging message from this post. Homeschooling can be difficult sometimes and we all need grace. Melanie is just the sweetest and she really touched my heart with her words on her Scope. Thank you for stopping by and leaving me this comment. It was much appreciated.

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