Love, Honor, and Virtue.
Gaining or Regaining a Biblical Attitude Toward Sexuality
Hal and Melanie Young ~ Authors
Having two boys getting ready to venture into the pre-teen, teen years, it’s time to start thinking about that talk that most parents dread even thinking about. The *facts of life* talk is not an easy one to have. It was a bit of a relief when we were given the opportunity to review Love, Honor, and Virtue: Gaining or Regaining a Biblical Attitude Toward Sexuality by Great Waters Press. It’s important to educate our boys, as they are faced with temptation today just as often as girls.
I’m really not sure why, but having the talk with our daughter seemed easier than even the thought of having it with our boys. Upon reading some of the researched statistics in this book I now understand why.
Boys are being exposed to and drawn into the battlefield of temptation younger and younger these days. There’s also a battle going on to remain pure, as God instructs us to be before marriage. With the use of the internet comes the possible exposure to pornography. Even general commercials are becoming more and more edgy and suggestive.
Before I get into too much of my thoughts on this book and what dangers our children are being exposed to today, I want to share with you a little about the book and the authors.
But first… a little about them!
Let’s start with the authors. Hal & Melanie Young are the Christ-centered, award-winning authors of Raising Real Men and My Beloved and My Friend: How to Be Married to Your Best Friend Without Changing Spouses. They are the parents of 6 boys and 2 girls.
Their writing is from a Biblical standpoint and view. They believe “there is a God who exists, who is personal, who created the entire universe from nothing, and exercises continual care and rule over all of it.”
The book Love, Honor, and Virtue: Gaining or Regaining a Biblical Attitude Toward Sexuality is written to the parents of young men ranging from pre-teen to early manhood. They also believe that the book can be read by the child/young man. The book takes on the Biblical attitude towards sexuality.
What we received.
The paperback book has a total of 96 pages. Making for a quick read. At the conclusion of each chapter, there is a summary of that chapter. This makes for easy reference in the future. The construction of the book is very well put together. A sturdy, glossy front and rear cover along with nice heavy printed pages. A good quality book is always important to me.
Printed and bound in the United States of America.
The table of contents is as follows:
- To the Young Men on the Battlefield
- Sex Was God’s Idea
- It’s All Connected
- The Enemy Perverts God’s Design
- How Can a Young Man Keep His Way Pure?
- Recovering From a Fall
- Guys and Girls
- The Road Ahead
The discussion in the book is backed by Bible scripture quoted from the New King James Version unless otherwise indicated. The addition versions are: English Standard Version and New American Standard Bible.
Also available on Audiobook, eBook, and mp3 Download.
How we used it and our final thoughts!
My initial intention was to read the book myself and then possibly hand the book over to our 12-year-old son to read. After reading the book myself I decided that I would not be letting him read the book any time soon. Whereas the content was very real and factual, it was a bit intense for a young mind. Especially if they have not been exposed to all the temptations that are mentioned throughout the book.
Please allow me to explain. The situations in the book are real-life situations that young men can be exposed to and are faced with, but some of the temptations discussed, our son, thankfully, hasn’t experienced. I don’t want to introduce them to him unnecessary. I am not nieve to the fact that these temptations can occur in the blink of an eye.
With that being said, I think reading the book myself equips me to handle the sensitive subject. It gives me the tools and the insight to be able to have the discussion how, I, the parent, sees fit. And for that, I am thankful for reading it.
I want to touch a little on the topics in which I am speaking about in the previous paragraph. In the *It’s All Connected* chapter there is a section titled: The Act of Marriage. This section goes into great detail about sexual activity between a man and a woman. It discussed foreplay in detail, along with the complete sexual experience from beginning to end. Where I feel this is important education and part of our God lead purpose, I don’t feel that my child is at a mature age to understand it. Perhaps we can revisit this when he gets older and matures.
What makes this book such a great tool?
Adding that this book not only covers the why’s and how’s of waiting until marriage to become sexually active, it also talks about the temptations that are facing our young men at every turn. From how to handle and manage their desires as their body is growing and maturing to being faced with pornography.
In addition, it brings up what to do when they have fallen for the temptations and given into them. Giving them hope from a biblical perspective and “how to start back on God’s road”.
It’s no secret that lust, temptation, self-satisfaction, porn, gender identity, among so many other sinful things are lurking and just waiting to devour our youth. This book is a fantastic tool to use to help guide and direct away from and against those things. We cannot allow the enemy to seek and destroy our young men.