Who’s making you be Incredi-Mom?

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In case you have not actually met Incredi-Mom.
Allow me to introduce her.


Mom encouragement

Incredi-Mom is model height, has perfect skin, is definitely her ideal weight and her hair is thick and ever-flowing. She is married to a man that has 0 body fat, has a job where he DOESN’T bust his butt and put in long hours and his pay is way more than they can use. I should mention he helps her around the house with ALL the housework. Wow! What an amazing family!

Let’s discuss Incredi-Mom’s skills now. She gets up in the morning before her children (she has 4) and does her hair, make up, and dresses herself in a matching outfit. One that doesn’t consist of cotton pants. Her nails are beautiful too, by the way.

She is a great cook. Cooks every meal for her family. She cooks everyone a full healthy breakfast every morning and does the dishes right after. She manages to have everyone on a smooth running routine, they get dressed, brush their teeth, make their bed, and are patiently waiting at their school table, sharpened pencils in hand, ready for their lessons.
Yeah, they are a homeschool family!

Her school time runs like a well-oiled machine EVERYDAY; no tears, no complaining, all her children’s work is complete and there are definitely no gaps in their education. She has an open ended budget for all her homeschool needs; supplies, curriculum, computer and tablets for each. Their homeschool room is decorated in beautiful matching patterns and storage is a plenty.

I should take a moment to mention her house. She has so much room in her beautifully decorated home. It is decorated with everything lovely that she likes and she has more than enough closets and closet space that every item in her home has a perfect spot and always stays organized. And get this …. her children NEVER break anything of hers! Can you believe that?

Her home is always spotless because her children don’t really make messes and if they do, she is right there to clean it up. You can walk into her home on ANY day of the week, unannounced, and there is never a dirty dish in the sink, a pee stain on the toilet, no dust on her furniture, and all the remotes are set neatly in their cute little basket. Oh’, and can you believe that there isn’t even toothpaste on the kids bathroom sink? I know! Crazy, right?

All of her children are in some sort of extracurricular activity – of their choice. Her days are filled, but she never gets tired and never complains.

She gets time to herself, with no interruptions.  Her husband never complains about not getting enough time with her because she always spends plenty of time with him as well.

Incredi-Mom sounds ….. well…. Incredible, doesn’t she?

Well, she doesn’t exist!

With so many social media outlets now and the millions of blogs available to view on the internet, it’s hard to not look at some of the amazing pictures of others’ houses and homeschools and feel like “man, they have got it together!” What is wrong with me?”

It seems to be a trait of humans to always feel like we don’t have enough, are not good enough, and need more. We are always comparing ourselves to others. We know we aren’t supposed to do this, but we can’t help ourselves.

We look at other moms and homeschool moms and think they have it all together. They don’t! They might appear to us that they do, but if you were to really dive into their lives, you would find that they don’t have it all and can’t do it all.

Some might keep immaculate houses, never a speck anywhere. What you can’t see is that that mom can’t cook or maybe has a terribly annoying habit.  Maybe they don’t spend much needed quality time with their children because they are always cleaning. A mom’s time is something kids need.

Being the perfect mom


Others might have what appears to be the perfect homeschool room or area, all nice and neat and organized. Even what appears to be the perfect daily schedule. If you look in their fridge you might find food with fuzzy green stuff on it that was dated 2012. You see, no perfection there. We all might be good in some areas of our lives but we will surely lack in others. We’re human!

It’s hard to juggle it all. The truth is, we can’t juggle it all. There has to be some give somewhere. You just need to prioritize. What is the most important to you?

  • A clean house?
  • Your child’s education?
  • A beautifully decorated house?
  • Your alone time?
  • Well balanced meals
  • A perfectly organized home?
  • A perfectly organized homeschool area?
  • Activities with your kids?
  • Activities with you husband?

I am preaching to the choir here, ladies! My husband has to often remind me that we can have a clean house and nice furniture when the kids grow up and move out. I do need to keep that in mind when I am running around, stressed, and in a panic because the house isn’t up to “my standards”.

I love to organize and be organized, but I need to remember that’s it’s not the end of the world if something isn’t in it’s “home.”

Let’s not get started on a vehicle. I drive a 10 year old, baby blue, mini van. With stains on the seat and floorboard! If you would have told me  years ago that I would be driving around in a baby blue grocery getter, like a soccer mom, I would have laughed in your face and told you “never!” “In your dreams!” “I am NOT ever going to be THAT MOM!”

I had a beautiful SUV with leather seats, a panoramic moon roof, fully loaded. {got a great deal on it, that’s the only reason we bought it at the time} It was beautiful! The problem was, I was always freaking out because I didn’t want to get it dirty. I panicked if we had to eat on the go. Kids are messy, people! There is no way around this!

I would much rather have my baby blue grocery getter over that SUV today.

So, who is making you be Incredi-Mom?

It’s you!  {Unless you have a Mother-In-Law who thinks she’s perfect and thinks you should be too! News Flash::: Her son isn’t perfect either. Just Say’n}

You tell yourself that you need to do it all, have it all, and be it all. Mama’s, it CAN’T happen.

There are NO Incredi-Moms on this earth. No one has walked this earth in over 2000 years that was perfect.

We are NOT perfect and NEVER will be. It’s okay! God intended it to be this way. He knows what He’s doing.

So, the next time you are comparing yourself to “that” person and you feel like you need to have Incredi-Mom Mode kick in, remember that SHE is a phony, a fake, a wanna-be, a fictional thing. You are not made of plastic – you are not a “thing” – you are a human being, flesh and blood. Not made to be perfect in everything.

Often, we lose focus of what we are good at and what our strengths are by focusing on the traits that we wish we possessed. Why do we do that? It’s crazy!

It’s good to surround yourself with those who will lift up your qualities and traits and help you to not focus on the traits you wish you had. Wishing we had ‘this or that’ and even wishing we could do ‘this or that’ will not bring to you what isn’t meant for you to have.

I’m going to do a flip around here. A little roll reversal, if I may.


You don’t have to have it all or do it all in order to be Incredi-Mom. You are Incredi-Mom – just ask your kids!

So let’s stop comparing ourselves to others, ladies!

Hone in on your strengths and good character traits and share them with others. You just might encourage someone else who thinks she needs to be Incredi-Mom.


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  1. Ya know, I find that we often feel like we need to take on the world. We don’t! It’s just hard to remember that sometimes. Yes, we can’t do it all.

    Thanks for your comment Amy.

  2. I really needed that reminder today. As I sit here with my two happy kids I don’t have to feel bad about the two huge piles of laundry that need to be folded. It is so much more important to have happy kids than a house that is cleaned spotless. 🙂
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  3. Samantha, I need this reminder everyday!

    You are spot on when you say that having your kids be happy is more important than laundry.
    Thanks for stopping by and leaving your comment. It is much appreciated.


  4. Not sure why we think we have to do it all and if we don’t we are less than. Or we have mommy envy.

    Thanks for this post. We are incredible regardless of how “imperfect” we are.

  5. So very true, JRosemarie!

    You are most welcome & thank you for stopping by my blog. It’s much appreciated.


  6. Hi Brandy, I’m stopping by from the Sunday Blog Hop. Thank you for linking up this great post. I really hope that many moms take your wisdom to heart and forget about having to be incredible, and focus on being Mom.
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  7. Jenn,
    I appreciate your Sunday Blog Hop.
    It’s very hard for us mothers to remember this, isn’t it? I have to remember my own advice as well.
    Thank you for stopping by.

  8. Brandy: <3… Ok so you know I'm not a homeschooling mom but a WAHM… so I have just as many scheduling issues {ok maybe not but you get it}
    I have so much love the every word in the post… It needs shared 100 times a week ! 🙂
    PS My Mother-in-laws son isn't perfect either 😉
    PSS I'm featuring this post on Friday ! 🙂
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  9. Thank you for featuring this on this Friday’s Learning From Each Other Blog Hop. That is great.
    I am equally excited that you got something from this post. We ALL fall into this trap sometimes. It’s always nice to have a reminder sometimes that we don’t have to do it all and be it all.
    Thanks for stopping by!

  10. Every mom just has to strive to be the best they can be. No one is perfect.

  11. #truthbomb 😉

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